How to Identify and completely erase Limiting Beliefs about money.
Most Limiting Beliefs about money and success come from the things you saw, heard and experienced around money, success and rich people when you were a child.
Many of those experiences were repeated frequently and with intense emotion, so they became a part of who you are.
However they are quite easy to identify, clear away and replace with something more empowering.
Ask yourself the following two questions.
Answer them with the first thing that comes to mind.
Money is…
Rich people are…
Some of the instant reactions people give me are listed below. Do any of these sound familiar to you?
· Money is hard to come by
· There isn’t enough
· You have to work hard for your money
· Money doesn’t come easily
· You can’t have time and money
· We have always scrimped and saved for everything we have
· Money is isn’t spiritual
· Money is the root of all evil
· Rich people are…. Mean, nasty, tight fisted, crooks
· Money doesn’t buy happiness
· Money doesn’t grow on trees
· I am from a poor, working class background
· Money always seems to slip through my fingers
· You have to rip people off to have money
· Who did they rob to get that nice car/ house? etc- jealousy
· I am unlucky
· The higher you go, the harder you fall
· Things always go wrong for me
· There is never enough to go round
· I can’t afford it
What were your experiences around money as a child?
If you find there are very painful memories and experiences coming up, please seek appropriate professional help for you to deal with them.
Listen to your thoughts and your language.
Do you say any of those phrases in your day-to-day life?
If you do, that could be hampering your ability to allow financial abundance to flow into your life.
If you catch yourself saying any of those phrases, it is important to STOP immediately, REWIND and change it to something more empowering.
For example if you have an immediate, automatic “I can’t afford it” reaction, ask yourself, “If I really wanted that thing, HOW could I afford it?”
Just by changing your language and what you say with EMOTION and FEELING on a regular basis can cause huge shifts in your energy and open up your flow of prosperity.
Most people consider themselves to be honest, genuine, nice people who want to be liked and who want to do business in an ethical and fair way.
If you have a belief that Rich people are all mean, nasty, tight-fisted crooks, who make their money by ripping people off, how are you going to allow yourself to become a rich person?
In my experience rich people are some of the nicest, most helpful, most charitable people I have ever met.
Ask yourself:
“What beliefs about money would serve me better?”
Maybe something like “I am abundant, I am prosperous I am good at managing my money, money flows to me, I make good business decisions.” Choose what fits best for you and start to repeat these phrases. At first this may seem very alien to you and you will probably hear a lot from the little “Gremlin voice” which tells you why that is not a truth for you. It is important to find ways to silence it. We’ll talk more about the Gremlin Voice another day.
Start to take actions to make those beliefs a reality. Maybe that is something a simple as keeping track of your spending or opening a savings account.
You could ask yourself,
“What beliefs would successful, prosperous people have about money?”
You will probably find that most of the beliefs held by successful, wealthy, prosperous people would be the complete opposite of the list above.
They expect things to work out for them and if they don’t they look at what they can learn from the experience and move on.
There is a lot we can learn by looking INTO successful people.
Feel good about your money.
When you think about money, what feelings do you get? Do you feel worried, panicky, sick in the pit of your stomach or that there is not enough?
Have you ever noticed that, when you worry about the lack of money, more things seem to go wrong, more unexpected bills come in and there seems to be a huge hole in your pocket? It seems the more you worry, the worse it gets.
So how do you turn that one around?
Please remember that money is only a tool. It serves You. You don’t serve it.
It is important to get into a good feeling place around money. Be grateful for what you have and what you can do with what you have right now. How much pleasure could you get out of what you have right now?
Think of a time when you did something or you bought something where money (and it may not have been very much) gave you real joy or pleasure. Maybe it was a family outing or a meal with a friend or a holiday or something special you bought for yourself.
The more you can remember those wonderful feelings about money and you can call on them at will, the easier it is to attract things into your life that you want.
For more guidance on Clearing Limiting Beliefs, please see our audio relaxation and workbook Clear Limiting Beliefs.
I hope you have found this article useful.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Your Guide to Clear Limiting Beliefs
©Amanda Goldston 2007. All rights reserved.
P.S. Just image how free you will feel once you clear limiting beliefs around money
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Friday, 24 August 2007
Top 10 Limiting Beliefs
TOP 10 Limiting Beliefs
Most of our beliefs about ourselves, how the world works and our deservedness of great success (or not) were acquired from our experiences as children, and many of those beliefs still run our lives as adults.
Quite a few of them no longer serve us, and often cause us to unconsciously sabotage our own success. This usually ends up being blamed on "bad luck". However it is more likely to be an old belief pattern that is rearing its ugly head once more.
As you read the list, ask yourself if you believe any of these (or a variation of them) and if you do, ask yourself WHY? you believe them.
You can then do an Inquiry (see bottom of beliefs list) on each one. Question these unhelpful and unsupportive beliefs, and then LET THEM GO
- Fear of our GREATNESS
For many people this is the biggest one, though often the least discussed. What if I was really GREAT at my own business? my job? as a spouse/partner? as a parent? as a public speaker? etc. What would other people say? What would my "friends" say if I suddenly outshone them?, my income took off? I bought my dream home or my dream car etc?
For most people this is one of the most uncomfortable thoughts they can consider, and as a result holds more people back than almost anything.
As Marianne Williamson said in her book, a Return to Love (1992):
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."
"Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you"
As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others
- Fear of Not being (good) ENOUGH
If you have a dream or a desire to be, have or do something, then you already have everything you need within you to achieve that dream. You already have all the skills, talents and abilities that you need
You cannot be given the dream and then not have the resources to achieve that dream
So many people hold themselves back by feeling they need to read one more book, take one more course/seminar, do one more thing before they go for their dream.
- Fear of NOT being LOVED
This is quite closely linked to the previous belief. Often people fear that if they are their true selves, people will not like and love them and they will lose their friends and end up alienated and alone.
Many people go through life trying to BE who they think other people- family, friends, employers, employees, partner etc- want them to be, in order to win love and acceptance from those people.
The most important person, however, is ourselves. It is far more important to totally LOVE & ACCEPT ourselves exactly as we are. Once we can do that, we attract to us people who also love and accept themselves and they can then love and accept us exactly as we are.
Our Angels and Guides love us exactly as we are. Children and animals do as well. We don't have to pretend to be something we are not to love ourselves and to be loved by others
- Fear of Rejection
This comes in different forms, from not asking for the date with the person you really want, to being afraid to make that all important call or being afraid to ask for the raise you deserve or not asking for the order, just in case the person says "NO".
Well, What if they do? What's the worst that could happen? Probably nothing much, yet they might say YES! In most cases, people are not rejecting you as a person, they are most likely simply not accepting what you are offering to them.
Success is a matter of ASKING, and keep ASKING until you find the right person who can help you achieve your dreams. If someone says NO to you, it's a signal to either change your strategy or ASK someone else
Look at a child who wants an ice- cream in a shop. What do they do? First they ask Mum, then Dad, then Grandma or Grandad, and if that doesn't work they change tactics. Do they eventually get their ice-cream? Frequently. And when they don't, they ask for sweets in the next shop or a cake in the next
One tip: ASK with the biggest SMILE you can and start nodding your head! It is amazing how often people will follow you and agree to your request
- Fear of FAILURE
What if I try this, and it doesn't work out? Failure is often considered to be something bad, to be avoided at all cost. However, it is the flip side of success, and in order to succeed you need to try different things- some will work out, others won't.
Most successful people don't use the word failure. In fact they consider it simply as a learning experience that showed them a way that didn't work, and try another approach, while still moving towards their dream. You can decide how long you allow yourself to feel bad or you can move on and try the next thing
OK, other people may laugh at you or talk about you for a short time. Most likely they are too busy with their own lives and problems to even notice you or anything that may have happened to you.
- Fear of SUCCESS
This is closely linked to most of the above, especially number one. People often fear the positive changes, maybe extra responsibility, that great wealth and success brings. They get caught in all the old negative programming about rich people being mean, selfish, arrogant and not spiritual and that money can only be acquired by foul means, and decide that it is not for them.
They get caught in negative thoughts of people begging for money and others taking it away from them, or what if they make it and then lose it? How much of an idiot would they look then to their friends and family?
Yet, Success and Abundance is our birthright. We were not meant to live in poverty or stress. Once we hook up to our source of Abundance, we know that money is like air- there is always more than enough for everyone, and it flows as freely as air.
The more Abundance you have, the more you can freely give to others and help them to improve their lives. Abundance is very spiritual. Money builds homes, schools, hospitals, places of worship
- I don't DESERVE/ I am not WORTHY of SUCCESS
Who decides who is worthy/deserving of success or not? It is not the Universe or our Creator because they want us to have all the abundance we can handle. Our natural state is joy and abundance.
What are the criteria for someone to be considered worthy/deserving of success? Is is family background? education? age? sex? religion?
You can CHOOSE for yourself that you are worthy of success and abundance. Claim your birthright NOW!
- Rich People are all mean, selfish, arrogant, unspiritual crooks who have made their money by cheating others
If you hold these beliefs then it is likely to be very difficult for you to allow yourself to have great wealth. If that is how you see rich people, then it is unlikely you would really want to become one.
Today there are more and more "Enlightened Millionaires" (Robert Allen & Mark Victor Hansen- The One Minute Millionaire 2003) than ever before. These people made their money by SERVING others and helping them grow in every sense of the word.
They know and understand that the more abundance they allow to flow to themselves, the more they can help others, and the quicker and easier poverty is eliminated.
- I have layers of deep rooted beliefs that hold me back
A belief is a thought and You can choose your thoughts. In any instant you can choose an empowering belief or a dis-empowering one. Why choose to hold onto old beliefs and keep bringing them back up. Let go of them
- I have to work long and hard for my money
Why? That is often a pattern that many of us saw from our parents. Yet for many people, working longer and harder does not actually produce more money or a better quality of life. Most millionaires only work long hours if they choose to, and many of them do not work particularly "hard". Wealthy people create money through creative ideas. If you follow your heart and your passions, money will follow and your means of earning money will seem like PLAY
- You need money to be able to make money, and I don't have any!
Many great fortunes have been built from nothing, sometimes less than nothing. Creativity and ideas are the starting point of riches. There are plenty of people out there, who have more money than time, and who will back good ideas.
Money is an energy and creating money begins by creating wealth in your mind. By living and experiencing great wealth, and truly knowing and believing that it is on its way to you because you deserve it. It begins by BEING wealthy and abundant in your mind, and making it so real that the physical then must catch up.
Some suggestions:- go shopping for a luxury car, your dream home, go and have a coffee or a drink in the cafe or bar where the millionaires meet or buy yourself a small item from the best store in town. Mix with the people you aspire to be like. Many of them are very pleasant, very approachable people. You will soon become like them.
The Inquiry- Question and challenge unhelpful thoughts and beliefs
Ask yourself, when you have a negative thought about yourself or someone else: e.g."that man should not have cut me off in the traffic"
- Is that statement an absolutely TRUE statement?
- How does that thought make me feel?- PEACE or STRESS?
- Can you think of one stress free reason to keep that thought?
- Who would you BE if you did not have that thought? Who would you be with the other person? (if someone else is involved)
- Now write the OPPOSITE of the old thought (i.e. that man should have cut me off in the traffic
- Which statement is more true, the old one or the new one?
- Where have I DONE that very thing in my own life? (i.e. where have you cut yourself off in your own life?
- What thought would make me feel better?
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston.
Your Guide to Clear Limiting Beliefs
©Amanda Goldston 2004. All rights reserved.
Monday, 20 August 2007
The most destructive phrase in the English Language?
The most destructive phrase in the English Language!
It is one of the quickest dream-killing phrases in the English language, it is a phrase that has been so ingrained in many of us since childhood that it is trots out of our mouth almost automatically and it is one of the quickest ways known to man-or woman kind to slam shut a gate the size of a house on our dreams.
“How could one phrase be so powerful?” I hear you ask. “And what is it?”
I was talking to a friend about summer holidays. “Where are you going this year?” I asked her. Without a moment’s hesitation, she said “I’d love a holiday BUT I’m not going anywhere this year. I...”. Guess what she said next...
Yes, that’s right, the dream destroyer phrase itself.
“I can’t afford a holiday, I’ve got no money”. End of conversation.
Every time she repeats that phrase, (and she says it frequently) and especially when she puts some intense feeling and real conviction to it (which she does) the Universe hears that as her request and sets about creating a situation of no money for her.
Unexpected bills turn up, things go wrong and a holiday is unlikely to materialise.
“OK,” I said to her, “I know you can’t afford a holiday (or you think you can’t) but if you could, just suppose for a moment it was possible, where would you go?”
Amidst much resistance, she told me, “Somewhere in Central France, with mountains, somewhere quiet and peaceful with nice food and plenty of wine.”
As she finished describing her ideal holiday, the next dream destroyer phrase tumbled out of her mouth, “BUT, there’s no way I can...”
Before she got too caught up in that I said to her. “Write at the top of your piece of paper, “How can I have a holiday in France this year?”
“Who do you know who has got a villa or a house in France that you could rent or you could stay there? Who do you know who has got a timeshare you could use? Who do you know who is a travel agent and could get you a cheap flight ad holiday deal? Who do you know who is French or has French family or who teaches language classes? Who do you know who sells timeshare and you could got to one of their presentations and get some free vouchers?”
“How can I afford it?”
“If you did know?…”
If you hear yourself saying, “I don’t know” turn it around and say to yourself, “I know you don’t know and if you did know, what might you do?”
Another hugely powerful phrase to add in here is “What else?” as that triggers off the next creative idea and keeps the flow going.
Language is a hugely powerful thing and just watching what we say to ourselves and others when we think of our goal can make a huge difference to whether we achieve it or not.
Language is probably one of the quickest ways to make changes because it can have an immediate effect on every aspect of your life. It can open you up to so many more possibilities.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Abundance Coach
P.S. Believe in the impossible by Lewis Carroll (from Alice in Wonderland)
"I can't believe that!" said Alice.
"Can't you?" the queen said in a pitying tone. "Try again, draw a long breath, and shut your eyes."
Alice laughed. "There's no use trying," she said. "One can't believe impossible things."
"I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast”
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Thursday, 12 July 2007
Could a fear of Sucess be holding you back?
Fear of Success and Fear of our Greatness.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness,
that most frightens us"
By Marianne Williamson, from "A Return to Love 1992"
When I first saw that quote, my brain slammed to a halt in order to
try to make sense of that.
That quote seems to be saying that we are more frightened of
massive success than we are of failure.
How could that be?
For many people this is one of their biggest fears and one of the
most destructive, because it is the least discussed.
Fear of Failure- yes, - most of us can understand that one and can
prepare ourselves for it.
Most of us are taught to expect the worst and potential "failure"
is a part of that.
But Massive Success? Most of us are never prepared for that one.
Could a Fear of Success be holding you back from achieving your
goals and dreams?
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness,
that most frightens us"
By Marianne Williamson, from "A Return to Love 1992"
When I first saw that quote, my brain slammed to a halt in order to
try to make sense of that.
That quote seems to be saying that we are more frightened of
massive success than we are of failure.
How could that be?
For many people this is one of their biggest fears and one of the
most destructive, because it is the least discussed.
Fear of Failure- yes, - most of us can understand that one and can
prepare ourselves for it.
Most of us are taught to expect the worst and potential "failure"
is a part of that.
But Massive Success? Most of us are never prepared for that one.
Could a Fear of Success be holding you back from achieving your
goals and dreams?
Ask yourself, What if I were really GREAT and did outstandingly well at my business? My job? In my relationship?
Notice how you feel when you ask yourself that question. Does it make you feel all tingly and excited? Do you start planning what you would do with all this success and probably the wealth that would follow it?
Do it now.
Imagine yourself to be fabulously wealthy, living in the home of your dreams, travelling to all your favourite vacation spots, having and doing all the things you would love to do- if you had the time or the money.
Really imagine it and notice how you feel. Notice any words that come up in your head. Do the words sound like a parent or teacher or someone from your childhood who told you all the reasons why “YOU” couldn’t have the life of your dreams?
Or do you suddenly feel really uncomfortable and start to think, “What would other people say? What would my "friends" say if I suddenly outshone them or my income took off?”
“Would I still have any friends?” or “Would I attract hangers-on, who just want to be with me because I have got money?”
Or “What would my parents say if I earnt ten times as much as they ever did?”
These thoughts can often be more unconscious than conscious. For many people, all they know is that they do not feel really comfortable with the idea of massive success, and as a result don’t try.
Anyone who has achieved massive success will have gone through this and had to give themselves a good talking to about it.
The fact is, as you become successful, not everyone around you will wish you success. Many of you will probably try to bring your friends along with you on the success journey, but many of those friends want to stay where they are and want you to stay where you are, so they don’t look and feel bad.
Actually, the more success you allow to come into your life, the more new friends you will attract, who will be on your new wavelength. Certain people will get left behind, but if they don’t want to grow with you, there is nothing you can do about that.
Fear of the Positive Changes
People often fear the positive changes, maybe extra responsibility, that great wealth and success brings.
They get caught in all the old negative programming about rich people being mean, selfish, arrogant and not spiritual and that money can only be acquired by foul means, and decide that it is not for them.
They get caught in negative thoughts of people begging for money and others taking it away from them, or what if they make it and then lose it? How much of an idiot would they look then to their friends and family? How much extra tax they might have to pay?
Yet, Success and Abundance is our birthright. We were not meant to live in poverty or stress.
The more Abundance you have, the more you can freely give to others and help them to improve their lives. Money builds homes, schools, hospitals, and many other great things.
True success is also about being able to be ourselves and to be comfortable with who we are.
BE Yourself
Many people go through life trying to BE who they think other people- family, friends, employers, employees, partner etc- want them to be, in order to win love and acceptance from those people.
The most important person, however, is ourself. It is far more important to totally LOVE & ACCEPT ourselves exactly as we are. Once we can do that, we attract to us people who also love and accept themselves and they can then love and accept us exactly as we are.
So how do You overcome a fear of Success?
The first thing is to be honest and to acknowledge the fear, if it is something that affects you.
Once you have identified and acknowledged it, then you can change it.
TIP : Mix With Successful People
One tip to change this is to find someone who has done what you want to do and model them. Modelling is a term which means learn from them, copy their good bits and adapt them to you.
There are a lot of people who have made their own success story, in whatever success means, and most of them are very open and approachable people.
Many of them remember where they have come from and are willing to help other people, providing those people are prepared to help themselves.
Pick someone who respect and admire, start to read their blogs, their articles, and newsletters, download their free stuff, maybe buy some of their products, contribute to their forums and get to know them- or at least about them
You don’t have to stalk them, but you can learn a lot from them. The key here is to take action on what they teach. Apply it to your own life.
As Kris Akabusi, the famous Olympic gold medallist says “successful people should be looked “IN-TO”, not “UP-TO”. What can you learn from these people about their success mindset?
Read as many books about successful people, particularly in your chosen field, as you can. Discover for yourself what they did to overcome this fear of SUCCESS.
Find people online and offline who you can mix with, who are on their way to their goals, and start to mix with them. Mix with people who are going somewhere with their lives and that will naturally pull you along as well.
You can start to upgrade your success mentality a bit at a time.
Each time you go out, go to a nicer and more exclusive and expensive coffee shop or restaurant or spend a bit more each time on the clothes you buy.
If you upgrade your success mentality in small increments, then it is much easier for your subconscious mind to accept and support, because it does not see it as a huge change.
I hope you enjoyed this short article and have found some ideas you could apply to your life.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Intuition and Abundance Coach
http://www.GetYourDreamLife.com
P.S. For more ideas on quickly and easily clearing limiting beliefs, and also a beautiful relaxation to let blocks to success gently dissolve away, while you sleep so you can enjoy the success that is your birthright, please go to:
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