How to find and dissolve limiting beliefs about money

How to Identify and completely erase Limiting Beliefs about money.

Most Limiting Beliefs about money and success come from the things you saw, heard and experienced around money, success and rich people when you were a child.

Many of those experiences were repeated frequently and with intense emotion, so they became a part of who you are.

However they are quite easy to identify, clear away and replace with something more empowering.

Ask yourself the following two questions.
Answer them with the first thing that comes to mind.

Money is…
Rich people are…

Some of the instant reactions people give me are listed below. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

· Money is hard to come by
· There isn’t enough
· You have to work hard for your money
· Money doesn’t come easily
· You can’t have time and money
· We have always scrimped and saved for everything we have
· Money is isn’t spiritual
· Money is the root of all evil
· Rich people are…. Mean, nasty, tight fisted, crooks
· Money doesn’t buy happiness
· Money doesn’t grow on trees
· I am from a poor, working class background
· Money always seems to slip through my fingers
· You have to rip people off to have money
· Who did they rob to get that nice car/ house? etc- jealousy
· I am unlucky
· The higher you go, the harder you fall
· Things always go wrong for me
· There is never enough to go round
· I can’t afford it

What were your experiences around money as a child?

If you find there are very painful memories and experiences coming up, please seek appropriate professional help for you to deal with them.


Listen to your thoughts and your language.

Do you say any of those phrases in your day-to-day life?

If you do, that could be hampering your ability to allow financial abundance to flow into your life.

If you catch yourself saying any of those phrases, it is important to STOP immediately, REWIND and change it to something more empowering.

For example if you have an immediate, automatic “I can’t afford it” reaction, ask yourself, “If I really wanted that thing, HOW could I afford it?”

Just by changing your language and what you say with EMOTION and FEELING on a regular basis can cause huge shifts in your energy and open up your flow of prosperity.

Most people consider themselves to be honest, genuine, nice people who want to be liked and who want to do business in an ethical and fair way.

If you have a belief that Rich people are all mean, nasty, tight-fisted crooks, who make their money by ripping people off, how are you going to allow yourself to become a rich person?

In my experience rich people are some of the nicest, most helpful, most charitable people I have ever met.


Ask yourself:

“What beliefs about money would serve me better?”

Maybe something like “I am abundant, I am prosperous I am good at managing my money, money flows to me, I make good business decisions.” Choose what fits best for you and start to repeat these phrases. At first this may seem very alien to you and you will probably hear a lot from the little “Gremlin voice” which tells you why that is not a truth for you. It is important to find ways to silence it. We’ll talk more about the Gremlin Voice another day.

Start to take actions to make those beliefs a reality. Maybe that is something a simple as keeping track of your spending or opening a savings account.

You could ask yourself,

“What beliefs would successful, prosperous people have about money?”

You will probably find that most of the beliefs held by successful, wealthy, prosperous people would be the complete opposite of the list above.

They expect things to work out for them and if they don’t they look at what they can learn from the experience and move on.

There is a lot we can learn by looking INTO successful people.


Feel good about your money.

When you think about money, what feelings do you get? Do you feel worried, panicky, sick in the pit of your stomach or that there is not enough?

Have you ever noticed that, when you worry about the lack of money, more things seem to go wrong, more unexpected bills come in and there seems to be a huge hole in your pocket? It seems the more you worry, the worse it gets.

So how do you turn that one around?

Please remember that money is only a tool. It serves You. You don’t serve it.

It is important to get into a good feeling place around money. Be grateful for what you have and what you can do with what you have right now. How much pleasure could you get out of what you have right now?

Think of a time when you did something or you bought something where money (and it may not have been very much) gave you real joy or pleasure. Maybe it was a family outing or a meal with a friend or a holiday or something special you bought for yourself.

The more you can remember those wonderful feelings about money and you can call on them at will, the easier it is to attract things into your life that you want.

For more guidance on Clearing Limiting Beliefs, please see our audio relaxation and workbook Clear Limiting Beliefs.

I hope you have found this article useful.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Your Guide to Clear Limiting Beliefs

©Amanda Goldston 2007. All rights reserved.

P.S. Just image how free you will feel once you clear limiting beliefs around money
Clear Limiting Beliefs Audio Relaxation and Workbook

The Art of Receiving

Give and….. – finish the sentence.

I would almost put a bet on you finishing the sentence with the word “Take”.

Give and Take is a phrase many of us use every day. Yet how does it make you feel? Does it make you feel abundant and prosperous? Or more like there is no real winner and you are probably having to compromise on something you really wanted?

How about replacing the word “take” with the word “receive”?

“Give and Receive” is the natural cycle of abundance, yet it is something loads of people struggle with.

For many the “Give” part is easy to do because most of us have been trained from being little children to give to others, to think of others before ourselves and to refuse gifts or compliments.

We have been trained that it is selfish to demand what we want and so many of us have a low measure of what we feel we are worth or we deserve.

So many people can selflessly give of their time, money, business services or anything else that anyone wants. Yet those same people can really struggle receiving the good that is their birthright.

“Well!” I hear you protest, “I wouldn’t refuse a big lottery win or an inheritance or a large pay rise!”

Agreed, you probably wouldn’t but you may be blocking that from coming to you by refusing small things in your life.

Compliments

Has anyone ever told you that your clothes look lovely? And have you ever cast that compliment aside with “O, this old thing!”?

Or have you ever almost had a fight with a friend when they have offered to buy you lunch and you have insisted on paying your share or that you were going to pick up the tab?

Have you ever refused money when you have done someone a favour, such as walk their dog or take them to the supermarket?

Or told someone they should not have bought you a present for your birthday or Christmas?

If you have ever caught yourself doing or saying any of those things, can you remember for a brief moment, the look on the person’s face when their gift or help was refused?

Most of us love to give because it makes us feel good. However the ability to gracefully receive- with a smile- is just as crucial. It is part of the cycle.

Refusing to accept good things blocks the flow and damages the cycle. We are all givers and we should also all be receivers. We cannot be solely one or the other.

Mount Everest

A few years ago, we had just sold a property and were feeling very prosperous financially. The husband of a friend of mine had the opportunity to go on an expedition to climb Mount Everest.

He had to fund part of it himself and my friend set about raising money for him. She baked and sold cakes, did a sponsored run and all sorts of other fundraising activities.

I offered her £500 as a gift towards this. Why? Because I wanted to, because I wanted to help and I thought it was a fabulous opportunity for him.

She refused the gift, saying she thought it would damage and compromise our friendship. I felt so hurt and so upset. I did not really know what to do with that money, as nothing I could think of seemed to give me as much pleasure as that gift would have done.

I felt like I had been hit with a sledgehammer. From there on, our friendship degenerated considerably.

Constantly giving is not as selfless as we have been taught because if you give constantly and never allow yourself to receive, you cannot nurture yourself and replenish your ability to give.

"Yes, Please I'll have a wet suit..."

On the other side, I was told about a lady who was about to retire. Her work colleagues planned a collection for her and asked what she would like as a leaving present.

Most people would say “O, nothing really!” and leave the givers wondering what to do with the money and probably end up buying something the person did not really want.

This lady, however, piped up with “Thank You very much. If you collect enough, I’ll have a diving wet-suit, please!”

Are you refusing your good?

We put out our requests to the Universe for something and then refuse to accept it when it comes back, probably because it often comes back in a way that is different to what we requested and we don’t recognise our own request.

Maybe our request was for more money and a new introduction comes back, which is not what we asked for as we were expecting a lottery win or a loan to be repaid.

We often expect our good to come in a certain way from a certain person and so can shut ourselves off to other possibilities.

Top tips for Receiving

- Accept compliments with a smile

- Allow a friend to buy you a coffee or lunch or a meal

- If someone offers to pay you for something such as walking the dog or petrol (gas) money for taking them to the shops, gracefully accept it

- If you get an offer of help in any way, accept it, whether it is someone carrying your shopping or getting something off a high shelf for you

- Pick up pennies/cents in the street

- Expect to receive gifts, compliments, freebies, good deals, discounts, vouchers etc

- Think of yourself as lucky and tell yourself you are lucky and good things come to you

- Buy something really nice for yourself and accept the gift from yourself

- Practise saying "Thank You" and noticing things that make you feel happy.

Practise and have fun. Watch someone’s face light up when you gratefully accept something they have offered. That is a priceless experience!

With abundant blessings

Amanda Goldston- Intuition and Abundance Coach

P.S If you think you have blocks to allowing money into your life, you could try our new, improved Clear Limiting Beliefs workbook and Relaxation audio