Tarot Author and Coach

Hello again,

I am in the process of collecting together all my business profiles and blogs that I have written over time, so that they all point to one place.

I have also realized where my true passions lie in terms of business and I am now updating these various pages to reflect this.

I have had an interest in Tarot cards and how they can help us in our lives for over 16 years. I have used Tarot cards extensively in my own life and in my coaching practice in several ways.

Tarot Cards can be very useful for looking at the way things are unfolding IF no changes are made or no-one makes any different decisions. However that is not fixed and we have the free will to make the ultimate decisions for ourselves.

Tarot Cards can be very useful for clarifying your thinking about an issue, as well as for confirming your own intuitive prompts. Sometimes seeing things visually laid out in front of us can make a huge difference to our thinking. Sometimes the solution can, quite literally, be staring us in the face.

Tarot Cards can be used to empower people or to dis-empower and I am a great believer that, if used correctly, they can be a very valuable tool in our personal growth toolbox.

Over time I have listened to various "marketing gurus" who have told me that Tarot does not fit in with business and that telling people that I have a passion for Tarot Cards would do me more harm than good from a professional perspective.

Actually I have come to realise that is not the case. Some of that negativity came from their own perceptions and some of it from me not trusting in my own judgment.

The things that have given me the most pleasure over the last few months have been writing and publishing my Book, "Develop Your Intuition Through Tarot" and creating an audio course by the same name.

I was in my element when I created the "Easy Learn Tarot Audio Course" because I talked for over 6 hours about the Rider Waite deck of Tarot Cards, including explanations of the cards, how they combine with each other different spreads, including the Celtic Cross Spread and the 21 Card Romany Spread.

I did a further 3 hours of sample readings, which included 13 different readings, using different combinations of the Major and Minor Arcana of the Rider Waite deck of Tarot cards.

I have loved writing articles about Tarot and feel very proud to publish them.

So I think it is safe to say, Teaching People Row to Read Tarot Cards is my Passion.

You can find out all about me and Tarot on my website. There are tarot articles and videos, as well as a FREE card of the day Tarot Card Reading and my Learn Tarot blog.

www.LearnTarotOnline.com

Please come and say Hello!
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston
Tarot Author and Coach

The 5 Finger Prayer

A big thank you to my friend, Farrah, who sent me this.

I had never heard this before. This is beautiful - and it is surely worth making the 5 finger prayer a part of our lives.

1. Your thumb is nearest you. So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you. They are the easiest to remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C. S. Lewis once said, a 'sweet duty.'

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders. Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators. These people shape our nation and guide public opinion. They need God's guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is the fact that this is our weakest finger, as any piano teacher will testify. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger - the smallest finger of all which is where we should place ourselves in relation to God and others. As the Bible says, 'The least shall be the greatest among you.' Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself. By the time you have prayed for the other four groups, your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.

May God bless you always.

Please pass this lovely blessing on to all your friends and family.
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston
www.GetYourDreamLife.com

So Proud..

Hi
If you have children or grand-children I am sure you will know that feeling of "bursting with pride" when you see them accomplish something- on their own and without help from us.

Such was a moment for us a few weeks ago.

As many of you know our girls, Stephanie and Jacqueline, are home-schooled and one of their activities is a singing-dancing-drama group called Stagecoach. (Highly recommended, by the way).



In the summer they had a week workshop. The singing teacher wrote the script, which was a twist on the story of "Cry Wolf".

In only one week, starting totally fresh on Monday morning, they put on a full length production with songs, costumes and scenery.



It was amazing and it was a real "proud parents" moment.

It has also encouraged them to have a go a writing their own fairy-tale scripts.

There are so many wonderful opportunities for children to be creative and for us to get huge pleasure from watching them.
Have a great day.
with abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston
Abundance Guide.
www.GetYourDreamlife.com

One of my favourite poems

Hi

I love this poem. It is so simple and yet really beautiful: I hope it brightens your day.

A Smile Costs Nothing

A smile costs nothing, but gives much.

It enriches those who receive it without making poorer those who give it.

A smile takes only a moment, but the memory of it can last forever.

No one is so rich, or so mighty, that they can get a long without a smile.
And no one is so poor that they cannot be made richer by a smile.

A smile creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in business and is the

countersign of friendship.

A smile brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the

sad and is nature's best cure for trouble

Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen
for it is of no value to anyone until it is given away.

Some people are too tired to give a smile so give them one of yours ,as no-one needs a smile so much as he who has no more of his own to give.

Anon

We have just started a "laughter book" where everyone writes something each day that made them smile.

For us, most of this seems to be about the mad antics of George the Rottweiler or about my absent- mindedness.

Yes, I really did bang my head on the curved fish tank in the aquarium in Plymouth (with the big sign above it that said "Mind Your Head") and then have a serious disagreement with a concrete pillar in a car park (which just "slightly" re-shaped Greg's car).

The kids thought it was hilarious!

By the way, did you know that computers "hibernate"? Ours does and it switched itself off today after only 2 minutes being switched on!


What made you smile today?

However small it may seem, treasure that moment.
Feel a warm glow of joy inside you.
After all, life is made up of magic moments.

Smile at someone and you will be amazed at the warm, glowing, beaming smiles you get back.
Have a smiley day.
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston
Abundance Guide.
www.GetYourDreamLife.com

The Power of Nurturing Yourself

Hi

One Saturday I had the most wonderful treatment session from a lady called Sally Shoesmith of Escential Health at the Cottage Healing Centre in Tamworth, Midlands, UK.

There has been so much going on with us recently with new products and getting ready to move to Devon, that I was feelign really out of sorts. I had been feeling quite weepy, without knowing why, and getting overwhelmed at very minor things.

Sally's treatment was wonderful.

We talked first about everything that was going on and what I wanted to achieve from the session.

The goal for me was to release anything and everything from the past that was no longer serving me.

In true spirit of Goldston family, I might as well set a huge task while I am at it!

As the treatment progressed, it became clearer and clearer what the problem was:

1) Spleen- area of holding on to past stuff
2) liver- releasing toxins
3) Pancreas- what came up here was about vegetables and nutrition
4) Blood sugars - cravings for tea, coffee and chocolate

Hmm, I think she summed me up perfectly!

Nurture myself

I have been so busy "doing" that I have completely forgotten "being" and taking care of myself. I had long been saying "when we move, when we get into the country, when...."

What I realised is that I have to start nurturing ME- NOW!

I decided to cut down on the tea, coffee and chocolate, eat more vegetables and drink more water, as well as get out with the dog more, get to bed earlier and get a cleaner- that is definitely nurturing me!

Nuture my computer

Yes, I know, I sound like I have flipped altogether.
But, actually there is some sense to that.
Most of my business and income is generated via my computer, so it makes sense to brighten up my workspace and also to give my computer a day off!

I put some little crystals and buddha figures around it and changed the picture on the wall to one that really makes me feel good, instead of one that reminds me of all the things I "should" be doing.

Day of doing Nothing

So, I did absolutely nothing on Saturday and it was wonderful! I sat in the garden and watched the flowers, read a bit of my book, meditated, caught up on my sleep, took the dog for a walk and totally nurtured and pampered myself.

Boy, did it feel good.

When I put the computer back on, I was so much more productive.
Also, the other miracle thing was my computer was far less temperamental than it had been on Friday- and sales had come in while I lazed in the garden!

Perhaps both the computer and I needed nurturing.

That was certainly a real eye-opened to me.

You are your most important asset.
How can you nurture you?
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston
Your Guide to Abundance

How to find and dissolve limiting beliefs about money

How to Identify and completely erase Limiting Beliefs about money.

Most Limiting Beliefs about money and success come from the things you saw, heard and experienced around money, success and rich people when you were a child.

Many of those experiences were repeated frequently and with intense emotion, so they became a part of who you are.

However they are quite easy to identify, clear away and replace with something more empowering.

Ask yourself the following two questions.
Answer them with the first thing that comes to mind.

Money is…
Rich people are…

Some of the instant reactions people give me are listed below. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

· Money is hard to come by
· There isn’t enough
· You have to work hard for your money
· Money doesn’t come easily
· You can’t have time and money
· We have always scrimped and saved for everything we have
· Money is isn’t spiritual
· Money is the root of all evil
· Rich people are…. Mean, nasty, tight fisted, crooks
· Money doesn’t buy happiness
· Money doesn’t grow on trees
· I am from a poor, working class background
· Money always seems to slip through my fingers
· You have to rip people off to have money
· Who did they rob to get that nice car/ house? etc- jealousy
· I am unlucky
· The higher you go, the harder you fall
· Things always go wrong for me
· There is never enough to go round
· I can’t afford it

What were your experiences around money as a child?

If you find there are very painful memories and experiences coming up, please seek appropriate professional help for you to deal with them.


Listen to your thoughts and your language.

Do you say any of those phrases in your day-to-day life?

If you do, that could be hampering your ability to allow financial abundance to flow into your life.

If you catch yourself saying any of those phrases, it is important to STOP immediately, REWIND and change it to something more empowering.

For example if you have an immediate, automatic “I can’t afford it” reaction, ask yourself, “If I really wanted that thing, HOW could I afford it?”

Just by changing your language and what you say with EMOTION and FEELING on a regular basis can cause huge shifts in your energy and open up your flow of prosperity.

Most people consider themselves to be honest, genuine, nice people who want to be liked and who want to do business in an ethical and fair way.

If you have a belief that Rich people are all mean, nasty, tight-fisted crooks, who make their money by ripping people off, how are you going to allow yourself to become a rich person?

In my experience rich people are some of the nicest, most helpful, most charitable people I have ever met.


Ask yourself:

“What beliefs about money would serve me better?”

Maybe something like “I am abundant, I am prosperous I am good at managing my money, money flows to me, I make good business decisions.” Choose what fits best for you and start to repeat these phrases. At first this may seem very alien to you and you will probably hear a lot from the little “Gremlin voice” which tells you why that is not a truth for you. It is important to find ways to silence it. We’ll talk more about the Gremlin Voice another day.

Start to take actions to make those beliefs a reality. Maybe that is something a simple as keeping track of your spending or opening a savings account.

You could ask yourself,

“What beliefs would successful, prosperous people have about money?”

You will probably find that most of the beliefs held by successful, wealthy, prosperous people would be the complete opposite of the list above.

They expect things to work out for them and if they don’t they look at what they can learn from the experience and move on.

There is a lot we can learn by looking INTO successful people.


Feel good about your money.

When you think about money, what feelings do you get? Do you feel worried, panicky, sick in the pit of your stomach or that there is not enough?

Have you ever noticed that, when you worry about the lack of money, more things seem to go wrong, more unexpected bills come in and there seems to be a huge hole in your pocket? It seems the more you worry, the worse it gets.

So how do you turn that one around?

Please remember that money is only a tool. It serves You. You don’t serve it.

It is important to get into a good feeling place around money. Be grateful for what you have and what you can do with what you have right now. How much pleasure could you get out of what you have right now?

Think of a time when you did something or you bought something where money (and it may not have been very much) gave you real joy or pleasure. Maybe it was a family outing or a meal with a friend or a holiday or something special you bought for yourself.

The more you can remember those wonderful feelings about money and you can call on them at will, the easier it is to attract things into your life that you want.

For more guidance on Clearing Limiting Beliefs, please see our audio relaxation and workbook Clear Limiting Beliefs.

I hope you have found this article useful.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Your Guide to Clear Limiting Beliefs

©Amanda Goldston 2007. All rights reserved.

P.S. Just image how free you will feel once you clear limiting beliefs around money
Clear Limiting Beliefs Audio Relaxation and Workbook

How to Develop Your Intuition in Business

How to Develop Your Intuition in Business

How to develop Your Intuition in Business

What is Intuition or gut feeling?

It is knowledge obtained from an ability to understand or know something immediately without needing to think about it, learn it or discover it by using reason:- Cambridge dictionary.

In my understanding it is a way of just "knowing" something without any rational explanation for it. Often there are no external signs to back up this "knowing". I believe it is something we all have and it is as real as the other senses of sight, sound, touch, smell and hearing.

For a long while it was considered that women used their intuition more than men, although I am now meeting more and more men who use this guidance system to help them.

Intuition to me is a strong feeling that something is right or wrong and for me it is usually located in my lower stomach area- so hence the term "gut feeling". The question often comes up is whether it is something inside us or outside us or a mixture of the two?

Why it is crucial to develop and listen to your intuition/gut feeling in business

As an Abundance Guide I am often asked whether everyone has this ability to see and hear information, which is not immediately obvious to the five senses.

The answer is most definitely YES, although it is more developed in some people than others.

It is often referred to intuition or gut instinct- or the “BS Detector” and seems to be more widely used by women.

Some of the things you can do when you learn to Develop Your Intuition

- How to tell immediately if someone is lying to you.
- How to get an insight into the character and personality of someone you are dealing with and know instantly whether you can trust them or not.
- Know in advance what objections someone might come up with to your sales and businesses proposal and be prepared for them.
- Tune into the true feelings and emotions of a client or an employee and really get a feeling of what is going on for them when they might not be able to express it in words.
- Build instant rapport with almost anyone.
- Know when your words or actions have overstepped someone’s boundaries, so you can take immediate corrective action.

How to develop your Intuition

Know when your intuition is trying to connect with you.

Think of a time when you absolutely knew something was right or wrong- and you listened to that knowing.

How did you know? Was it a feeling in your body? Where was it? Was there a voice? How was the knowing voice different from all the other chatter in your head?

Can you remember the sounds, feelings, pictures? Where in your body did you feel the knowing? For a lot of people that feeling is in their stomach (or solar plexus) area. What kind of feeling was it? Warm? Cold? Maybe it was a voice you heard? Where was the voice? What was the tone?

The more of this you can recall, the easier it is to know when your intuition is trying to get through to you.

For me, when I know something is right, I get prickles running right up my legs and up my back.

It may be a completely different sensation when you know something is wrong
When you can identify that knowing, you can practise listening to it

Relax and be still.

The quieter you can get your mind, the easier is it to connect with your intuition. It is hard for it to get through to you when you are stressed.

Take a few deep breaths, breathe our tension and breathe in a feeling of connection. For some people this works best as a guided visualisation. For others a simple breathing exercise is brilliant.

I have found that, for me, breathing in deeply to the count of 7, holding for 7, breathing out to 7 and holding for 7 is a terrific way to calm mind, body and spirit in minutes.

The more you can quiet the chatter, the easier it is to be aware of your intuition and to hear the creative insights when they come to you.


Practise.

Just as the phone rings, take a deep breath and try to tune in to who is calling. It really freaks someone when you answer the phone with their name, especially if you were about to call them- and their number has not shown up on your phone.

Have fun

Listen to your feelings or to the little quiet, knowing voice that is there to guide you. Before you make an important decision, pause, take a deep breath, ask yourself “what is the best course of action for you at this moment?” and quietly wait for an answer.

Once you can learn to trust your intuition or gut feeling, it won’t let you down. It will help you in any situation.

Hope you find this of use.

With love and Abundant blessings

Amanda Goldston

Abundance Guide and Author of "How to Develop Your Intuition in Business"

Top 10 Limiting Beliefs

TOP 10 Limiting Beliefs

Most of our beliefs about ourselves, how the world works and our deservedness of great success (or not) were acquired from our experiences as children, and many of those beliefs still run our lives as adults.

Quite a few of them no longer serve us, and often cause us to unconsciously sabotage our own success. This usually ends up being blamed on "bad luck". However it is more likely to be an old belief pattern that is rearing its ugly head once more.

As you read the list, ask yourself if you believe any of these (or a variation of them) and if you do, ask yourself WHY? you believe them.

You can then do an Inquiry (see bottom of beliefs list) on each one. Question these unhelpful and unsupportive beliefs, and then LET THEM GO

• Fear of our GREATNESS
  
  For many people this is the biggest one, though often the least discussed. What if I was really GREAT at my own business? my job? as a spouse/partner? as a parent? as a public speaker? etc. What would other people say? What would my "friends" say if I suddenly outshone them?, my income took off? I bought my dream home or my dream car etc?
  
  For most people this is one of the most uncomfortable thoughts they can consider, and as a result holds more people back than almost anything.
  
  As Marianne Williamson said in her book, a Return to Love (1992):

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."

"Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you"

As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others

• Fear of Not being (good) ENOUGH
  
  If you have a dream or a desire to be, have or do something, then you already have everything you need within you to achieve that dream. You already have all the skills, talents and abilities that you need
  
  You cannot be given the dream and then not have the resources to achieve that dream
  
  So many people hold themselves back by feeling they need to read one more book, take one more course/seminar, do one more thing before they go for their dream.

• Fear of NOT being LOVED
  
  This is quite closely linked to the previous belief. Often people fear that if they are their true selves, people will not like and love them and they will lose their friends and end up alienated and alone.
  
  Many people go through life trying to BE who they think other people- family, friends, employers, employees, partner etc- want them to be, in order to win love and acceptance from those people.
  
  The most important person, however, is ourselves. It is far more important to totally LOVE & ACCEPT ourselves exactly as we are. Once we can do that, we attract to us people who also love and accept themselves and they can then love and accept us exactly as we are.
  
  Our Angels and Guides love us exactly as we are. Children and animals do as well. We don't have to pretend to be something we are not to love ourselves and to be loved by others

• Fear of Rejection
  
  This comes in different forms, from not asking for the date with the person you really want, to being afraid to make that all important call or being afraid to ask for the raise you deserve or not asking for the order, just in case the person says "NO".
  
  Well, What if they do? What's the worst that could happen? Probably nothing much, yet they might say YES! In most cases, people are not rejecting you as a person, they are most likely simply not accepting what you are offering to them.
  
  Success is a matter of ASKING, and keep ASKING until you find the right person who can help you achieve your dreams. If someone says NO to you, it's a signal to either change your strategy or ASK someone else
  
  Look at a child who wants an ice- cream in a shop. What do they do? First they ask Mum, then Dad, then Grandma or Grandad, and if that doesn't work they change tactics. Do they eventually get their ice-cream? Frequently. And when they don't, they ask for sweets in the next shop or a cake in the next
  
  One tip: ASK with the biggest SMILE you can and start nodding your head! It is amazing how often people will follow you and agree to your request

• Fear of FAILURE
  
  What if I try this, and it doesn't work out? Failure is often considered to be something bad, to be avoided at all cost. However, it is the flip side of success, and in order to succeed you need to try different things- some will work out, others won't.
  
  Most successful people don't use the word failure. In fact they consider it simply as a learning experience that showed them a way that didn't work, and try another approach, while still moving towards their dream. You can decide how long you allow yourself to feel bad or you can move on and try the next thing
  
  OK, other people may laugh at you or talk about you for a short time. Most likely they are too busy with their own lives and problems to even notice you or anything that may have happened to you.

• Fear of SUCCESS
  
  This is closely linked to most of the above, especially number one. People often fear the positive changes, maybe extra responsibility, that great wealth and success brings. They get caught in all the old negative programming about rich people being mean, selfish, arrogant and not spiritual and that money can only be acquired by foul means, and decide that it is not for them.
  
  They get caught in negative thoughts of people begging for money and others taking it away from them, or what if they make it and then lose it? How much of an idiot would they look then to their friends and family?
  
  Yet, Success and Abundance is our birthright. We were not meant to live in poverty or stress. Once we hook up to our source of Abundance, we know that money is like air- there is always more than enough for everyone, and it flows as freely as air.
  
  The more Abundance you have, the more you can freely give to others and help them to improve their lives. Abundance is very spiritual. Money builds homes, schools, hospitals, places of worship

• I don't DESERVE/ I am not WORTHY of SUCCESS
  
  Who decides who is worthy/deserving of success or not? It is not the Universe or our Creator because they want us to have all the abundance we can handle. Our natural state is joy and abundance.
  
  What are the criteria for someone to be considered worthy/deserving of success? Is is family background? education? age? sex? religion?
  
  You can CHOOSE for yourself that you are worthy of success and abundance. Claim your birthright NOW!

• Rich People are all mean, selfish, arrogant, unspiritual crooks who have made their money by cheating others
  
  If you hold these beliefs then it is likely to be very difficult for you to allow yourself to have great wealth. If that is how you see rich people, then it is unlikely you would really want to become one.
  
  Today there are more and more "Enlightened Millionaires" (Robert Allen & Mark Victor Hansen- The One Minute Millionaire 2003) than ever before. These people made their money by SERVING others and helping them grow in every sense of the word.
  
  They know and understand that the more abundance they allow to flow to themselves, the more they can help others, and the quicker and easier poverty is eliminated.

• I have layers of deep rooted beliefs that hold me back
  
  A belief is a thought and You can choose your thoughts. In any instant you can choose an empowering belief or a dis-empowering one. Why choose to hold onto old beliefs and keep bringing them back up. Let go of them

• I have to work long and hard for my money
  
  Why? That is often a pattern that many of us saw from our parents. Yet for many people, working longer and harder does not actually produce more money or a better quality of life. Most millionaires only work long hours if they choose to, and many of them do not work particularly "hard". Wealthy people create money through creative ideas. If you follow your heart and your passions, money will follow and your means of earning money will seem like PLAY

• You need money to be able to make money, and I don't have any!
  
  Many great fortunes have been built from nothing, sometimes less than nothing. Creativity and ideas are the starting point of riches. There are plenty of people out there, who have more money than time, and who will back good ideas.
  
  Money is an energy and creating money begins by creating wealth in your mind. By living and experiencing great wealth, and truly knowing and believing that it is on its way to you because you deserve it. It begins by BEING wealthy and abundant in your mind, and making it so real that the physical then must catch up.
  
  Some suggestions:- go shopping for a luxury car, your dream home, go and have a coffee or a drink in the cafe or bar where the millionaires meet or buy yourself a small item from the best store in town. Mix with the people you aspire to be like. Many of them are very pleasant, very approachable people. You will soon become like them.

The Inquiry- Question and challenge unhelpful thoughts and beliefs

Ask yourself, when you have a negative thought about yourself or someone else: e.g."that man should not have cut me off in the traffic"

• Is that statement an absolutely TRUE statement?
• How does that thought make me feel?- PEACE or STRESS?
• Can you think of one stress free reason to keep that thought?
• Who would you BE if you did not have that thought? Who would you be with the other person? (if someone else is involved)
• Now write the OPPOSITE of the old thought (i.e. that man should have cut me off in the traffic
• Which statement is more true, the old one or the new one?
• Where have I DONE that very thing in my own life? (i.e. where have you cut yourself off in your own life?
• What thought would make me feel better?

I hope you have found this useful.
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston.
Your Guide to Clear Limiting Beliefs

©Amanda Goldston 2004. All rights reserved.

The most destructive phrase in the English Language?

The most destructive phrase in the English Language!

It is one of the quickest dream-killing phrases in the English language, it is a phrase that has been so ingrained in many of us since childhood that it is trots out of our mouth almost automatically and it is one of the quickest ways known to man-or woman kind to slam shut a gate the size of a house on our dreams.

“How could one phrase be so powerful?” I hear you ask. “And what is it?”

I was talking to a friend about summer holidays. “Where are you going this year?” I asked her. Without a moment’s hesitation, she said “I’d love a holiday BUT I’m not going anywhere this year. I...”. Guess what she said next...

Yes, that’s right, the dream destroyer phrase itself.

“I can’t afford a holiday, I’ve got no money”. End of conversation.

That one phrase killed the conversation, it shut off any possibility of her having a holiday and shut down any creativity she might have had.

Every time she repeats that phrase, (and she says it frequently) and especially when she puts some intense feeling and real conviction to it (which she does) the Universe hears that as her request and sets about creating a situation of no money for her.

Unexpected bills turn up, things go wrong and a holiday is unlikely to materialise.

“OK,” I said to her, “I know you can’t afford a holiday (or you think you can’t) but if you could, just suppose for a moment it was possible, where would you go?”

Amidst much resistance, she told me, “Somewhere in Central France, with mountains, somewhere quiet and peaceful with nice food and plenty of wine.”

As she finished describing her ideal holiday, the next dream destroyer phrase tumbled out of her mouth, “BUT, there’s no way I can...”

Before she got too caught up in that I said to her. “Write at the top of your piece of paper, “How can I have a holiday in France this year?”

Her resistance kicked in big time and the next thing she said was the 3^rd of this destructive trio “I don’t know”.

I was amazed at how genuinely stuck she seemed at this point, so I started her off with a few suggestions.

“Who do you know who has got a villa or a house in France that you could rent or you could stay there? Who do you know who has got a timeshare you could use? Who do you know who is a travel agent and could get you a cheap flight ad holiday deal? Who do you know who is French or has French family or who teaches language classes? Who do you know who sells timeshare and you could got to one of their presentations and get some free vouchers?”

For the first few ideas, she had an excuse why everyone would not work.

“Yes, I know someone with a timeshare, but it is in Spain or it is probably too late to exchange it, yes I know someone with a house but I don’t know when they are using it or if they rent it out, don’t know anybody who…”

Notice the pattern here. Every idea was followed by either “I can’t, but, I don’t know or that wouldn’t work for me because...”

Eventually she allowed herself to open up to the possibility that there could be a solution. As soon as she did, the most obvious solution for her hit her straight in the face, where she could possibly go for as little as... free or almost nothing.

Part of her current business discussions is with a company who offer holidays and travel as corporate incentives and she has already negotiated arrangements with them. Talk about missing the blindingly obvious.

The money for what you want to do may be sitting in your bank right now, however there are ways of attracting those funds or the people who can provide them.

“How can I afford it?”

Get rid of the phrases of “I can’t afford it” and replace it with “How can I afford it?” If you get the little negative voice telling you al the reasons why you can’t, tell it as politely as you can to “Go away” for now as it is not being very helpful.

Get your ideas on paper. You can analyse and edit them later.

Once you have got some ideas, the next important thing to do is to pick one and take immediate ACTION before the negative voice has time to come back and tell you why that one won’t work or why you can’t because of whatever reason.

Get rid of “BUT” and replace it with AND or something else. BUT negates everything you have just said.

“If you did know?…”

If you hear yourself saying, “I don’t know” turn it around and say to yourself, “I know you don’t know and if you did know, what might you do?”

Another hugely powerful phrase to add in here is “What else?” as that triggers off the next creative idea and keeps the flow going.

Language is a hugely powerful thing and just watching what we say to ourselves and others when we think of our goal can make a huge difference to whether we achieve it or not.

We have all had times in our lives when we have had to find money for something because it was really important. Most of then automatically used the “How can I approach?” and there was no room for doubt.

Language is probably one of the quickest ways to make changes because it can have an immediate effect on every aspect of your life. It can open you up to so many more possibilities.

Catch yourself before you say negative phrases and choose to use more empowering phrases to support you and your goals.

For more ideas on Changing Limiting Beliefs see our “Clear Limiting Beliefs” audio and workbook http://www.getyourdreamlife.com/limitingbeliefs.htm

With abundant blessings

Amanda Goldston

Abundance Coach

www.GetYourDreamLife.com

P.S. Believe in the impossible by Lewis Carroll (from Alice in Wonderland)

"I can't believe that!" said Alice.

"Can't you?" the queen said in a pitying tone. "Try again, draw a long breath, and shut your eyes."

Alice laughed. "There's no use trying," she said. "One can't believe impossible things."

"I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast”

Clear Limiting Beliefs” audio and workbook http://www.getyourdreamlife.com/limitingbeliefs.htm

Amazing Natural Meditation Resources

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He explains numerous different meditation techniques, which is very refreshing to find. He appreciates that different things work for different people and guides you to go at your own pace.

It's ideal for anyone with an interest in meditation, self-growth and personal
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I really enjoyed this programme, particularly the 30 minute one and found myself in a very deep state of relaxation. It was really wonderful. I think I might have even nodded off to sleep. I felt really refreshed when I had finished and had a fresh flow of creativity on a project I was working on.

As a regular meditator I found the sections on the history and practice of meditation a bit un-interesting. I wanted to get straight to the meditation and relaxation parts because those are the bits I most enjoy.

There are several different meditations you can do, ranging from a couple of minutes up to 30 minutes. This is great because you can pick and choose what you want to do, depending on how much time you have got.

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With abundant blessings

Amanda Goldston Abundance Coach

P.S. Secrets of Meditation can make a big difference to your stress levels and creativity.

Secrets of Meditation., Health and Manifestation

Sane, Sensible and Normal!

What- the Goldston family!
You have got to be kidding!

Well we did try!

A couple of weeks ago we went on holiday to the beautiful South West of England. This was business and pleasure, as we were looking for a property on Dartmoor to be a self development/healing/retreat centre.

Dartmoor consists of very ancient outcrops of granite rock, which is known for its amazing healing properties.



We went along the coast into Cornwall, which has some spectacular scenery and some beautiful beaches, although they are more rocky than sandy.



I truly love this part of the world and I am so excited about moving down there. I grew up on the North Devon coast, which is very similar to this south Cornwall Coast.

Now, when most people (sane, sensible and normal) go in search of a beach, they will look for something where they can drive down to it and park almost on the beach.

Not the Goldston family!

We parked on the road at the top of the cliff and walked down to it!
Here's the narrow, windy, slippery path we navigated to do that.



And of course, Stephanie and I were wearing the most unsuitable shoes you could imagine. Stephanie was wearing her party shoes and I was wearing my business shoes!

We did venture in the sea and for July, it was distinctly cold!!!




Stephanie did not seem to mind and I have to wonder if that child is part Mermaid!

Back a bit!

Sometimes I really wonder why I married a photographer!

Yes, he watched the big waves come in and kept telling me to go "back a bit!" until he got the shot he was waiting for. The wave came in and hit me, just when I was not expecting it!

Dartmoor is very well known for its ponies, amongst other things.

They were quite a curious bunch, especially one particular foal, that thought Greg's camera would make a very tasty snack!

Can you imagine trying to explain that to an insurance company?
"What happened to your camera?"
"A foal ate it!"

We had a brilliant time.
I will keep you posted on the self-development centre.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Abundance Coach

What finger are you?

Hi all

I liked this one. What finger are you? This is what I got.

You Are a Ring Finger

You are romantic, expressive, and hopeful. You see the best in everything. You are very artistic, and you see the world as your canvas. You are also drawn to the written word. Inventive and unique, you are often away in your own inner world. You get along well with: The Pinky (little finger) Stay away from: The Index Finger

What Finger Are You?

I suppose that about sums me up.

Great quiz.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston

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Take a look at this- it’s brilliant

A good friend of mine, Graham "Sledge" Bowall has just
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Graham is an entrepreneur who has
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Your Self Miracle

I thought this programme was brilliant. I went through it and came up with 4 pages of ideas for a project I was working on.

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With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston

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Hi all

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Success is YOURS,
With Abundantn Blessings
Amanda Goldston
amanda@getyourdreamlife.com

How I made my first dollar online

I am sure that you, like me, have heard all the stories of people making fantastic amounts of money online and wondered how they REALLY did it- and more importantly how I could do the same.

It is often said that making the first dollar or pound or whatever is the hardest and it is. This is because you have to learn what you are doing and that involves can involve a lot of trial and error.

It took me nearly 2 years to make that elusive first dollar. Everyone has to start somewhere.

What do Joe Vitale, Mark Joyner, David Garfinkel, Pat O'Bryan and Amanda Goldston have in common?

We have all made money online and we all had to start with that first dollar.

OK , at the moment the first four have considerably more zeros on the end of their pay-checks. The only difference between me- or you - is time.

As many of you know I have been working with Pat O'Bryan and the Portable Empire University to create and market my own downloadable products.

I have started to have some success with my first 2 products- Creative problem Solver and Clear Limiting Beliefs

C0-author a book with my heroes!

And now, I am a co-author with all of the people above of a soon to be released book called

"How I made my first dollar online"

How cool is that?

The great thing about this book is that is not only has chapters from the Internet Marketing great, it also has chapters from ordinary people like me.

People who have learnt how to make $1, $20, $100 , $500, $1000 or more. That may not sound like a lot of money, but that can make a big difference to monthly pay check.

Especially if that has come in from something where you have done the work once and then continue to get paid with it.

There is lots to learn from the people who are already fabulously successful. Most success books tell us to follow in the footsteps of the people who done what want to do.

Yes, great strategy.

Sometimes, to me at least, those people seem so far away from where I am that I can't relate to them.

I can, however, relate to someone who has $1 online and can show me how me how to do the same and then build on it.

I believe there is also a lot we can learn from people who are just starting out.

Watch for the book coming out very soon. It has lots of brilliant stuff in there.

"How I made by first $1 online" by Joe Vitale, Mark Joyner, David Garfinkel, Pat O' Bryan, Amanda Goldston and others..."

I will let you know as soon as it is released.
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston

P.S. That first $1 online can then lead to the next and the next. It is easy when you know how and you have got someone like Joe Vitale, Pat O 'Bryan and Mark Joyner to guide you

Journey to the top of Glastonbury Tor

Hi

Last weekend I was invited to go with some friends to Glastonbury in South West England. Glastonbury is very old and is considered by many to be a "spiritual mecca".

It certainly has more than its fair share of new age bookshops, crystal shops and shops selling all sorts of things for the Mind, Body and Spirit. I was in heaven!

It seems there was some powerful new earth energy coming in on that day, so we decided to trek up to the top of the famous Glastonbury Tor to welcome it in.

Many of you will have seen my husband Greg's stunning picture of Glastonbury Tor on his Inspiring Moods screensaver.

You may be mistaken- like I was- in thinking it is not very far to the top. In Greg's picture it doesn't look very far.

Well, how wrong could I have been!!

I felt like I was climbing Mount Everest!

Yes, that was the Tor from the bottom!

It was well worth the walk and the view was spectacular.

Below is a picture of the actual Tor itself. They reckon it was once part of the Glastonbury abbey and there were monks living it at one point.

At the appointed time, when the new energy was coming in, all we saw was some very dark clouds in the distance and it looked like it was going to pour with rain. The rain held off until we got to the bottom of the hill.

The inside of the Tor is much smaller than I expected and I was amazed by what I could see through the small window. How anyone lived in there, I have no idea.

I thoroughly enjoyed the day.
It was really lovely.

It reminds me of a couple of years ago when I climbed to the top of Mount Vesuvius in Italy with Greg and Jacqueline. I wrote an article about that journey, which you can see here.


Speak soon
With abundant blessings
Amanda Goldston
Abundance Coach

Could a fear of Sucess be holding you back?

Fear of Success and Fear of our Greatness.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness,
that most frightens us"
By Marianne Williamson, from "A Return to Love 1992"

When I first saw that quote, my brain slammed to a halt in order to
try to make sense of that.

That quote seems to be saying that we are more frightened of
massive success than we are of failure.

How could that be?

For many people this is one of their biggest fears and one of the
most destructive, because it is the least discussed.

Fear of Failure- yes, - most of us can understand that one and can
prepare ourselves for it.

Most of us are taught to expect the worst and potential "failure"
is a part of that.

But Massive Success? Most of us are never prepared for that one.

Could a Fear of Success be holding you back from achieving your
goals and dreams?

Ask yourself, What if I were really GREAT and did outstandingly well at my business? My job? In my relationship?

Notice how you feel when you ask yourself that question. Does it make you feel all tingly and excited? Do you start planning what you would do with all this success and probably the wealth that would follow it?

Do it now.

Imagine yourself to be fabulously wealthy, living in the home of your dreams, travelling to all your favourite vacation spots, having and doing all the things you would love to do- if you had the time or the money.

Really imagine it and notice how you feel. Notice any words that come up in your head. Do the words sound like a parent or teacher or someone from your childhood who told you all the reasons why “YOU” couldn’t have the life of your dreams?

Or do you suddenly feel really uncomfortable and start to think, “What would other people say? What would my "friends" say if I suddenly outshone them or my income took off?”

“Would I still have any friends?” or “Would I attract hangers-on, who just want to be with me because I have got money?”

Or “What would my parents say if I earnt ten times as much as they ever did?”

These thoughts can often be more unconscious than conscious. For many people, all they know is that they do not feel really comfortable with the idea of massive success, and as a result don’t try.

Anyone who has achieved massive success will have gone through this and had to give themselves a good talking to about it.

The fact is, as you become successful, not everyone around you will wish you success. Many of you will probably try to bring your friends along with you on the success journey, but many of those friends want to stay where they are and want you to stay where you are, so they don’t look and feel bad.

Actually, the more success you allow to come into your life, the more new friends you will attract, who will be on your new wavelength. Certain people will get left behind, but if they don’t want to grow with you, there is nothing you can do about that.

Fear of the Positive Changes

People often fear the positive changes, maybe extra responsibility, that great wealth and success brings.

They get caught in all the old negative programming about rich people being mean, selfish, arrogant and not spiritual and that money can only be acquired by foul means, and decide that it is not for them.

They get caught in negative thoughts of people begging for money and others taking it away from them, or what if they make it and then lose it? How much of an idiot would they look then to their friends and family? How much extra tax they might have to pay?

Yet, Success and Abundance is our birthright. We were not meant to live in poverty or stress.

The more Abundance you have, the more you can freely give to others and help them to improve their lives. Money builds homes, schools, hospitals, and many other great things.

True success is also about being able to be ourselves and to be comfortable with who we are.

BE Yourself

Many people go through life trying to BE who they think other people- family, friends, employers, employees, partner etc- want them to be, in order to win love and acceptance from those people.

The most important person, however, is ourself. It is far more important to totally LOVE & ACCEPT ourselves exactly as we are. Once we can do that, we attract to us people who also love and accept themselves and they can then love and accept us exactly as we are.

So how do You overcome a fear of Success?

The first thing is to be honest and to acknowledge the fear, if it is something that affects you.

Once you have identified and acknowledged it, then you can change it.

TIP : Mix With Successful People

One tip to change this is to find someone who has done what you want to do and model them. Modelling is a term which means learn from them, copy their good bits and adapt them to you.

There are a lot of people who have made their own success story, in whatever success means, and most of them are very open and approachable people.

Many of them remember where they have come from and are willing to help other people, providing those people are prepared to help themselves.

Pick someone who respect and admire, start to read their blogs, their articles, and newsletters, download their free stuff, maybe buy some of their products, contribute to their forums and get to know them- or at least about them

You don’t have to stalk them, but you can learn a lot from them. The key here is to take action on what they teach. Apply it to your own life.

As Kris Akabusi, the famous Olympic gold medallist says “successful people should be looked “IN-TO”, not “UP-TO”. What can you learn from these people about their success mindset?

Read as many books about successful people, particularly in your chosen field, as you can. Discover for yourself what they did to overcome this fear of SUCCESS.

Find people online and offline who you can mix with, who are on their way to their goals, and start to mix with them. Mix with people who are going somewhere with their lives and that will naturally pull you along as well.

You can start to upgrade your success mentality a bit at a time.

Each time you go out, go to a nicer and more exclusive and expensive coffee shop or restaurant or spend a bit more each time on the clothes you buy.

If you upgrade your success mentality in small increments, then it is much easier for your subconscious mind to accept and support, because it does not see it as a huge change.

I hope you enjoyed this short article and have found some ideas you could apply to your life.

With abundant blessings

Amanda Goldston
Intuition and Abundance Coach
http://www.GetYourDreamLife.com

P.S. For more ideas on quickly and easily clearing limiting beliefs, and also a beautiful relaxation to let blocks to success gently dissolve away, while you sleep so you can enjoy the success that is your birthright, please go to:

Clear Limiting Beliefs Workbook and Audio Relaxation